Category: Shame

Why You Need to Stop Feeling Guilty About How You Feel

October 3, 2016

“I shouldn’t be feeling this way! What’s wrong with me?! I’m a Christian! I have victory! I’m supposed to have joy and peace! Why do I feel these things?! I’m such a terrible Christian!”  Through your internal monologue, you berate and scold yourself as you struggle with negative thoughts. Rather than being guilted into action, however, you … More Why You Need to Stop Feeling Guilty About How You Feel

Am I Too Broken to Be Loved? [The Truth About Virginity Lost]

June 21, 2016

“You see this rose?” the teacher said, holding up a large, crimson rose, “Isn’t it beautiful?”  All agreed. “Now I’m going to pass it around.”  The teacher passed the rose around and everyone looked at it.  “Do you see now how the petals are slightly bruised? Is it still beautiful?” All said it was. “What if … More Am I Too Broken to Be Loved? [The Truth About Virginity Lost]

Good Girls Struggle in Secret [How Shame and Silence Are Keeping Us in Sin]

June 12, 2016

“You’re so good. You wouldn’t understand.” I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had people say this kind of thing to me. And I guess I can understand why. I have always been the kind of girl that had every outward appearance of piety. Being a preacher’s kid, a minister’s girlfriend, a missionary’s wife, … More Good Girls Struggle in Secret [How Shame and Silence Are Keeping Us in Sin]

Your Husband Is Not Lying, You Are (and It’s Ruining Intimacy for You Both)

May 30, 2016

[This article contains a rather frank conversation about sexuality. Please read this only if you are mature enough to handle such things. If such topics offend you, please refrain from reading. Thank you!] *     *     *    *    * It was a low point – a point I’m sure most … More Your Husband Is Not Lying, You Are (and It’s Ruining Intimacy for You Both)

I Am An Average-Sized Woman and I Don’t Need to Wear a Bikini to Prove Anything

October 3, 2014

I don’t normally write response posts, but this is a response to this post (which I recommend only looking at if you are female), which details a plus-size woman’s social experiment to see what the reactions would be if she went down the beach in a low-rise bikini. I felt the need to write a response … More I Am An Average-Sized Woman and I Don’t Need to Wear a Bikini to Prove Anything